How To Conquer Self-Doubt When Posting Content on Social Media

In the age of Instagram, self-love is the key to feeling yourself.
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Jul. 10
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Cherie is an online community of beauty lovers sharing their stories; whether that's their favorite products, makeup tutorials, or skincare routines. Download the app today to be a part of #BeautyWithoutBarriers and show the world what beauty means to you!“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” These are the words of the famous Chinese philosopher, Confucius. With the creation of the internet came the advent of social media, and now more than ever, country borders have become blurred, and information spreads faster than the speed of light. Now, we share personal memories with strangers. We lead private lives in public and lead public lives in private. Although social media allowed us to share information with the rest of the world at the click of a button, it also presented a lot of difficulties such as cyber bullying, anxiety and crippling insecurities. Instagram has made many people feel insufficient through cyberbullying and the constant flooding of pictures by people who appear to have near-perfect lives. Perfect bodies. Perfect jobs. Perfect lives. Many times before many of us post a picture, a wave of doubt breezes through our minds. Am I too fat? Am I too slim? Are the eyebags underneath my eye visible? Is there too much acne on my skin? Am I beautiful enough in this picture? So, we scamper through several photograph editing apps and apply as many filters as we can to hide the ugly parts of ourselves, to please an audience that should have no business determining how we live our lives. There is no predefined standard for beauty. “Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” I spoke with several Instagram users and we collectively compiled a five-step guide on how to conquer that crippling self-doubt that swarms us whenever we want to post a picture on social media Self-AffirmationBefore posting a picture on social media, affirm yourself positively. Remind yourself that you are enough. You are worthy. You are beautiful. A positivity/meditation app could help, an example is Calm. Positive ReinforcementWhenever you feel unsettled by the comments you would receive when you post a picture, go through previous positive comments on your old posts. Also, send the picture to your friends that make you feel good about yourself. If the doubt persists, post the picture and turn off comments on the picture.Streamline Your TimelineThe kind of content you consume on Instagram influences you consciously or subconsciously. Constantly look to filter the people you follow on Instagram. Unfollow the accounts that make you feel uneasy about yourself, and follow the accounts that make you feel happy and positive. Let your Instagram and other social media be your corner of the internet that is unashamedly you.Music Music speaks when words can’t. Before clicking post on that picture, get yourself in high spirits with music that elevates your mood. Play a lot of Lizzo, Beyonce or whatever music keeps your juices flowing and when you feel psyched enough, click post on that picture.CaptionPicture captions are used to express the words the picture doesn’t say. Sometimes, captions attach contextual meaning to a picture. A good caption often helps with self-doubt. When in doubt, bare your emotions out through the caption of your picture. The world is a global village, and however diverse we are, we still go through similar issues. Baring yourself out through your captions is a surefire way to help you and others going through something similar at the time overcome their insecurities and self-doubt.
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